“This is just how it works…”

People love to say, “This is just how it works.”

Like when someone breaks up with you because they “lost interest.” Or when you meet three guys in a row who happen to study biology, and someone tells you, “It’s not that deep—it’s just coincidence.”

We throw around the word normal like it’s a truth. But normal only means average. Common. Statistical. It doesn’t mean meaningful. And it doesn’t mean right.

I’ve never been comfortable with the idea that something is true just because it’s popular.

Because what if it’s not?

We’re living inside a structure of reality—something we can’t see but are completely surrounded by. It weaves everything through us: past, present, and future. We walk on it, sit under it, breathe it in. But we can’t touch it. We don’t even notice it’s there most of the time.

And love—love is one of the few things that makes this invisible thread visible. Love doesn’t follow logic. We don’t fall in love because someone’s conventionally attractive, or because they share our hobbies. There’s something else. Something we can’t explain.

Joshua brought adventure into my life. I was scared of it. I wouldn’t have chosen it. But I followed him into it, and I started to love it—not because I changed, but because he helped reveal something already inside me. Something reality already knew about me before I did.

That’s what I mean by acausal reality.

It’s not linear.

It’s not random either.

It’s a kind of knowing that happens underneath everything else.

Reality knows us. It’s not separate from us—it lives through us. Past, present, future—they’re not lined up like a row of dominoes. They fold and tangle and echo. And if reality knows what’s seeking you, it’ll plant signs, feelings, longings.

Trust your intuition.

Trust first sight love.

Chase after what stirs you.

Because that might be reality calling.